Changes

Read my journal in 2010. When I had my first video conference call interview. I was asked the 2 questions:
1. Describes the 3 strengths of yourself
2. What is your weakness(es) if any?

My answer at that point of time, the 3 strengths of myself are 1) flexibility 2) dedication & 3) creative
Why flexibility? I believe in any business environment, we need to be flexible to adapt any kind of requests (different business model adaptation), culture (as worldwide business, different culture will expect different response) and changes around us (these changes could be anything, political situation, rules & regulations changes ….etc).

I’m a very dedicated person, any assignments and goal set I will use my way to get it done.

Creativity, one should not blindly follow the book. Creativity and innovation way of work and ideas would lead to some unexpected results (sometime this could be negative or positive).

Weaknesses. I would not say there isn’t. Everyone has their own weakness, there is no perfect person in this world. My weakness can be annoying to someone else. I’m an impatient person and this could be the cause of my bad tempered. Well I will not throw a glass or punch people. However I choose to be silent. Silent treatment may not be the best solution, but for me this will be the best for me to control my emotion. This is what I learned over the years.

After 3 years, I have seen my improvement in emotional control. Maybe what had happened in the past, I’ve lost 2 loved one, lost some good friends (those whom i thought are closed), betrayal and accusations. Stress has never left me, but I found a way – diving to help me to release it.

There is still long way to go but I will continue to learn and control my emotion. :)

转:Management Course

今早看看邮件时收到这个,觉得很有意思。拿出来分享。:)

5 Minute Management Course

Lesson 1:
A priest offered a Nun a lift. She got in and crossed her legs, forcing her gown to reveal a leg.
The priest nearly had an accident. After controlling the car, he stealthily slid his hand up her leg.
The nun said, ‘Father, remember Psalm 129?’
The priest removed his hand. But, changing gears, he let his hand slide up her leg again.
The nun once again said, ‘Father, remember Psalm 129?’
The priest apologized ‘Sorry sister but the flesh is weak.’
Arriving at the convent, the nun sighed heavily and went on her way.
On his arrival at the church, the priest rushed to look up Psalm 129. It said,
‘Go forth and seek, further up, you will find glory.’

Moral of the story:
If you are not well informed in your job, you might miss a great opportunity.

Lesson 2:
A sales rep, an administration clerk, and the manager are walking to lunch when they find an antique oil lamp.
They rub it and a Genie comes out.

The Genie says, ‘I’ll give each of you just one wish.’

‘Me first! Me first!’ says the admin clerk ‘I want to be in the Bahamas , driving a speedboat, without a care in the world.’
Puff! She’s gone.

‘Me next! Me next!’ says the sales rep. ‘I want to be in Hawaii , relaxing on the beach with my personal masseuse, an endless supply of Pina Coladas and the love of my life.’
Puff! He’s gone.

‘OK, you’re up,’ the Genie says to the manager.

The manager says, ‘I want those two back in the office after lunch’

Moral of the story:
Always let your boss have the first say.

Lesson 3
An eagle was sitting on a tree resting, doing nothing.
A small rabbit saw the eagle and asked him, ‘Can I also sit like you and do nothing?’
The eagle answered: ‘Sure, why not.’
So, the rabbit sat on the ground below the eagle and rested. All of a sudden, a fox appeared, jumped on the rabbit and ate it.

Moral of the story:
To be sitting and doing nothing, you must be sitting very, very high up.

Lesson 4
A turkey was chatting with a bull. ‘I would love to be able to get to the top of that tree’ sighed the turkey, ‘but I haven’t got the energy.’
‘Well, why don’t you nibble on some of my droppings?’ replied the bull. They’re packed with nutrients..’
The turkey pecked at a lump of dung, and found it actually gave him enough strength to reach the lowest branch of the tree.
The next day, after eating some more dung, he reached the second branch.
Finally after a fourth night, the turkey was proudly perched at the top of the tree.
He was promptly spotted by a farmer,who shot him out of the tree.

Moral of the story:
Bull Shit might get you to the top, but it won’t keep you there.

Lesson 5
A little bird was flying south for the winter. It was so cold the bird froze and fell to the ground into a large field.
While he was lying there, a cow came by and dropped some dung on him.
As the frozen bird lay there in the pile of cow dung, he began to realize how warm he was.
The dung was actually thawing him out!
He lay there all warm and happy, and soon began to sing for joy.
A passing cat heard the bird singing and came to investigate.
Following the sound, the cat discovered the bird under the pile of cow dung, and promptly dug him out and ate him.

Morals of the story:
(1) Not everyone who shits on you is your enemy.
(2) Not everyone who gets you out of shit is you friend.
(3 ) And when you’re in deep shit, it’s best to keep your mouth shut!

上课:商业道德

在纽约的第一堂课是商业道德。这几天都在做功课,突然让我想起一件事。

这事发生在不久前,三月的某一天和某人的对话。

Reverse engineering是他当时用的词。我对当时自己的反应孩子的很清楚,就好像刚发生一样。我无法回答他的问题,也在同时对他的看法不一样了。有时候在想,是不是因为我是华人(大家公认中国是怎样对待外国科技。。),所以他会毫无忌讳的说出这样的想法。直到今天,我本人还是无法接受这样的思想行为。但如果站在公司的利益为前提,那又会是怎样的一个看法呢? 商业道德这个课题是一个无法平衡的话题。毕竟大家的道德观念都不一样。虽然我可以可观的看待每一件事,但我无法作出一些我自己无法接受的事情。就算这会让我失去一些价值,或让人觉得我是弱者,但我选择让我自己的良心过得去。:)

自我告诫。

Miss – 错过

把握时机,不要流失一个好机会。但什么时候,什么时机才算是好时机?对的时机呢?
有或者有人会说当天时地利人和的时候就要敢敢去做,不要浪费这样的时机。但怎样才是所谓的天时地利人和呢?

我觉得这没有人可以给一个很明确的答案。我个人很多时候都是凭自己的感觉和经验所定,当然有些时候是有一些资料后备。
很多时候因为自己太多无所谓的顾虑或太过的优柔寡断而错过了一些会让自己后悔机会,那就不值得了。

送你这首歌, MRTL – 25 Minutes.

Attitude 态度

Came across this story (true story) happened in a friend’s company.

They hired a young Admin Executive and she quit the next day giving the reasons that

1. the immediate superior (my friend, name F) is not friendly because she dint invite her for welcome lunch on the first day but asking the other admin lady to bring her out for lunch. – This really puzzle me…. resigning on the 2nd day due to no welcome lunch? @@”

2. nothing much to do. Normally in the company first and second day are orientation days where HR and different department will brief the new employee for the organization, the insurance, HR, introduce to the people in the office….etc. – This puzzle me even more…. how can someone judge on the first day of the orientation day and said that there is nothing much to do?

This is not the end, the best thing is from my friend’s superior, who is the director level (name as D). This D blame F for the above 2 reasons and intended to cut the budget for the position. This will means that F will need to cover all the jobs for this position…..

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After hearing this story and of course some others previous matter, lead me to think of 2 things here… 1) the attitude of the employee nowadays and 2) the quality of a manager

Before accepting a job, I would think that we would be consider carefully the nature of the job, the company (research before the interview), the career advancement of the job and the manager that you going to reporting to (at least the impression during the interview) . Last but not least the salary too (i’m not a charity worker, I need to live a life so this will still need to be factored in but will be my least priority).

After weighing those 5 mentioned above, then we will decide whether to take up the offer. Then once accepted will be prepared to take the new challenge. Set the right mindset and attitude towards the job. Sometimes changing working environment we will need to reset ourself to a stage zero in order to blend into the new culture. This process will normally take 3-6months depending on the work culture and environment. This is why there is always a probation period, this is for both employer and the employee to evaluate whether they are ok with each other. Make use of this to make sure if one like the environment or the job if not then feedback to the immediate superior during the confirmation review (some company do not have this practice but it will be good to request to do a review and set the expectation of both parties). If this is a non-negotiable issue and cant live with it, then it is best not to continue and move on.

Will share an article about the good boss later. :)